Ex of The Ex

Could you be friends with your Ex- boyfriends/ Ex- girlfriends?

Life is interesting, there's no forever friends nor enemies.

As social media gets our relationships exposed to the internet, and tells us the mutual connections we have, the world becomes smaller. With Linkedin, Twitter, and Facebook, you could even come across your ex's Ex. You could start chit chating with them if you are bold enough and if you like it. Somehow, you may find a friend that is similar to you because your ex probably chooses you because you're similar type as his/her ex. That's why life is a circle, it connects us all.

I am an easy going and open minded person, so I don't refuse being friends with anyone. Anyone could inspire me in some way and I appreciate that. I am honest to myself and my feelings, and if something doesn't feel right, I probably won't do it. After all, it all comes to our own peace, happiness, and perceptions towards life.  

Love yourself first before you know how to love others. Don't torture yourselves with negative emotions.

Treat yourself nicely and pursue your passions, then good luck, opening gates, and positive energy will come to you. 

Long-lasting Heat

Perhaps when we were young, we didn’t mind short-lived dating, because we didn’t settled for a long term relationship. However, when you have seen one firework cools down after another dies out, you will realize that there are many fireworks every year, but only the one which can maintain the heat continuously can truly warm peoples’ hearts. This fire, which can be kept hearty for the rest of life, is called True Love.

Most Pitiful Breakup

It's never a pity to break up for money, not to mention only for the 100,000 lottery winnings. I dare to say that, if you don't break up, you will definitely lose more than the current loss soon. The real pity is to break up for love, but you still have to break up when you are still in love. You have a hard time to say, and you can’t argue. You can only kill your front teeth and swallow the blood. This breakup is really a pity.

8 Reasons to Date Travelers

There is a type of a woman who loves to walk around, she has taste, she has extensive knowledge, she knows books and manners. To men, they are like a mystery. The more they cannot guess, the more they want to guess. Guys, date girls who love to travel more. They are like an unfinished adventure novel. They have a different kind of terrifying charm that makes people want to know her more. The following 8 reasons explain why they are so "datable"!

1. Envious intellectual beauty

Intellectuality is the patent of mature women. They have more opportunities to go out, and store more experiences and life stories. This is the wealth of life. Such a woman will reveal a kind of wisdom that has been tempered by the years, and make people around her sneer.

2. Act as your social queen

What was said was not a chattering flower that started talking, but a woman who understood social etiquette. People who go abroad often know a little bit about social skills. They know what is the friendship of hosting, when they release their goodwill, and communicate with strangers in a non-hypocritical manner. This attitude towards others will make you feel comfortable with them.
3. Negotiation skills are handy!

They can retain the corners of themselves and know how to accept the smoothness of others, because mature travelers know that just a smile is enough to calm the distrust between people.

4. Know how to appreciate and reward yourself

Women who travel frequently often have extensive knowledge, from astronomy to geography. Intellectual women love life and walking around is a way to spoil themselves.

5. Dress up and tasteful life attitude

Taste may not be directly related to substance. Really tasteful women, beautiful is of course, because they can dress up. However, the clothes you wear and use are not necessarily the most expensive in the city, as long as you choose the style that suits you, you can also express a different style. Really tasteful womens’ knowledge will never be less. Women arm their minds with wisdom, not an expensive, vulgar thing. When dating a woman like this, men are enough to be proud.

6. Being independent, 0% princess cancer

Girls who are accustomed to going out are most confident, and they can distinguish clothing, food, shelter, and travel. This kind of girl loves freedom and is not afraid of loneliness. It is most suitable for men who do not like babysitting girlfriends and are afraid of womens’ obsession.

7. Be your travel guide

Independent travelers have rich experience in travel, ranging from navigation with maps, to cheap air tickets, and they are more familiar with catchpenny hotels than you in minutes. How can you not date such a funny girl and volunteer to be her flower ambassador!

8. Check out the future

In this generation, to test true love, you don’t need to share troubles via wars, and there is no need to cry out the trials of ghosts and gods. In fact, when you travel together, you will know more clearly whether the other person is the one you want to live with.

5 DEADLY WORDS USED BY WOMAN

1. FINE - this is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is RIGHT & 

YOU need to SHUT UP.

2. NOTHING - means SOMETHING & u need to be WORRIED.

3. GO AHEAD - this is a dare, not permission, do NOT do it.

4. WHATEVER - is a woman's way of saying SCREW YOU

5. THAT'S OK - she is thinking long & hard on HOW & WHEN you will pay for your mistake.

True friendships

A message to share about friendship

Real vs. ordinary

An ordinary friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders for you to rely on.

An ordinary friend does not know your parents' last name. A real friend has their phone numbers in the address book.

An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend will come to help you prepare early and leave later to help you clean.

An ordinary friend hates you calling after he has fallen asleep. A real friend will appreciate you call no matter what moment.

An ordinary friend asks you to talk about your troubles. A true friend is looking for you to solve your problems.

An ordinary friend is curious about your romance. A true friend can threaten you to share your stories.

An ordinary friend visits like a guest. A real friend will open the refrigerator to take things by himself/herself.

An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after an argument. A true friend understands that when you haven't fought, it is not true friendship.

An ordinary friend expects you to stay with him/her forever. A true friend expects him/her to be by your side forever!

幸福 Happiness

“幸福不是你房子有多大 ，而是房子里的笑声有多甜.
幸福不是你开多豪华的车 ，而是你开着车平安到家.
幸福不是你的爱人有多漂亮 ， 而是爱人的笑容有多灿烂.”

小时侯，幸福是一件东西，拥有就幸福；长大后，幸福是一个目标，达到就幸福；成熟后，发现幸福原来是一种心态，领悟就幸福。                       ---from 时尚小资馆。

幸福，没有捷径， 只有经营                       ----范范的“最重要的决定”。

就我来说，小时候有父母，老师，大人们的赞美，就觉得乐翻天；

长大后，为了追求美好的生活条件而努力，似乎是达到的话就会满足，

但是发现原来智慧就已经为我带来了心灵上的幸福， 因为心中有人性的爱。 

前两个阶段只是局限于被爱，我猜到年纪大了，可以有更大的能力去爱人和帮人， 该会得到更大的喜乐吧！ 

"Happiness is not how big your house is, but how sweet the laughter in the house is. Happiness is not about how luxurious the car you drive, but that you drive home safely.

Happiness is not how beautiful your lover is, but how bright your lover's smile is. "

When I was young, happiness is a thing, and happiness comes from having it; when I grow up, happiness is a goal, and happiness is achieved; after maturity, I find that happiness turns out to be a state of mind, and understanding leads to happiness. --- from Fashion Petty Museum.

Happiness, no shortcuts, only building and managing -Fan Fan's "most important decision".

As far as I am concerned, when I was a child, I felt happy when there were parents, teachers, and adults who complimented me. When I grow up, I worked hard to pursue a better living condition. It seemed to be achieved, I was satisfied. But I discovered that wisdom has brought me happiness in my heart, because there is the love of the humanity in my heart. The first two stages are limited to being loved. I guess when you are older, you can have a greater ability to love and help others. You will get more joy!

美 Beauty

爱美是女人的天性，尤其是花样年华的少女时代，应该好好绽放光芒。
但有近视的女生真的有烦恼，戴隐形眼镜怕感染细菌，做矫正视力手术成本高，难道戴眼镜的女人就没那么漂亮，减少魅力了吗？

我不這麼認為！戴眼鏡有自己的特點和魅力：）*

Loving beauty is a woman's nature, especially the girlhood in her fancy years, and it should shine well. But girls with nearsightedness are really troubled, worrying about infection of bacteria by wearing contact lenses on the one hand, and the expensive cost of corrective vision surgery on the other hand. Is wearing glasses not so beautiful, reducing woman’s charm? 

I don’t think so! Wearing glasses has its own characteristics and charm:)

妻比夫瘦 Wife is thinner than her husband

The secret of a happy marriage is probably not complicated: as long as the wife is thinner than her husband. A new study points out that if a woman ’s body mass index (BMI) is lower than that of her partner, both partners will be happier and more likely to maintain a happy marriage. Relativity of body weight Researchers from the University of Tennessee selected 169 couples under the age of 35 to fill in the questionnaire every 6 months for 4 years. The study found that men with a higher BMI (weight (kg) divided by height (m) squared) than their wives are happier in marriage; and women with a lower BMI than their husbands are significantly happier than other women. Researchers believe that this is because men generally believe that slim partners are more attractive, and are therefore willing to maintain relationships; slim women will feel that partners still love themselves, are more confident and feel loved, and are therefore happier. Researchers speculate that men pay more attention to their partners' appearance and weight than women, and their husband's dissatisfaction with body shape may appear at the beginning of the marriage, which makes his wife increasingly unhappy. However, the results of the study show that the main influence on the relationship between the couple is relative weight. Women with different body types can have a happy relationship as long as they find a suitable partner. It is not necessary to be slim. Experts also pointed out that men are more capable in marriage, such as income, education, height or weight, which will make women feel more secure and both men and women will be happier.

影子隨想 Shadow Thought

不管是日曬雨淋，黑夜白晝，或是快樂哀愁，總是有你默默地守護著我，貼身地跟隨著我。 看見你一天一天變高， 由昔日矮小的瘦皮猴，變成今天亭亭玉立的lady，心存感恩。你是我一生的好夥伴^^

Whether it's the sunny or rainy, night or day, joy or sorrow, you’re always here silently guarding me and following me closely. I am grateful to see you growing taller day by day, from the skinny monkey of the past to the slim lady of today. My Shadow, you are a good friend of my life ^^

To Ladies*

An encouraging and meaningful message to all ladies=):

1. No matter how good this man in front of you is, if he doesn’t love you, this is his biggest shortcoming which you can never change.

2. Do not cry when breaking up. Of course, it's not that you don't cry at all. In front of him, don't cry, but back in the ground, you could cry as much as you want.

3. The biggest shortcoming of a person is not selfishness, brutality, and willfulness, but stubbornness for loving a person who does not love you.

4. No matter how bad your conditions are, there will always be someone who loves you. No matter how good your conditions are, there are always people who do not love you.

5. The only way to seize a man should be, never let him be satisfied.

6. No matter how pretty you dress, no matter how expensive you wear, that's just a guise. A coat made with kindness is the true beauty.

7. If we blame love for hurting us, then may I ask, did you nod at the beginning to accept that love to come?

8. Grievances that can be spoken are not grievances. Those “lovers” who leave you are not considered your true love.

9. It is a kind of happiness to be able to hold a touch of sadness that cannot be taken away by time.

10. Human is always a lonely creature with ego. No matter how you sincerely speak your love, there will always be a moment that your heart cannot be understood.

11. Be neither modest nor arrogant, face everything with calmness and elegance.

12. A person, if he is not free, it is because he does not want to be free; a person, if he cannot walk away, it is because he does not want to walk away;

a person, if he has too many excuses for you, it is because he does not want to care.

13. Sometimes, things are subjective that cannot be explained. If you think it's worth it, then it's worth it; if you don't think it's worth it, even others say the opposite, you still feel it’s not worth it.

14. To understand the truth, men easily like a person, but will not easily fall in love with a person.

15. Woman, when in love, is like being isolated from the world.

16. On calm days, leave and cherish some space for yourself, some space for your partner, and some beauty for distance.

17. Sometimes don't worry too much. Men are a little bit clunky. Forgetting one thing doesn't mean he doesn't love you, don't scare yourself.

18. Women often like to confess their hearts, while men do the opposite.

19. Sometimes, learn to treat disappointment as a gain, because disappointment could be the byproduct of expectation.

20. Don't deliberately try to change whoever, because no one can change whoever, only if, he (whoever) is willing to change for you.

21. By time, you can understand love, you can prove love, you can also overturn love.

22. Freedom is precious, but tens of thousands of people are using freedom in exchange for love every day.

23. You can have vanity, because that is the nature of women, but don't let yourself become a tool for adding vanity to others.

24. Don't say that there is no good man in this world, don't remember and hate the person who abandoned you, after all, he had loved you. Forgiveness will make you more beautiful.

25. Don't be curious and don't care what his current girlfriend looks like. How is her figure? You're just making trouble for yourself like this.

26. Whatever you said must be done, even if it is stupid, it is better than words without credibility.

27. Don't make a decision when you’re angry and crying, you will regret it.

28. He said, “I am tired, let me calm down and take a break for a while, okay?” You say yes, because he came to inform you, not to get your consent.

29. You are pure then so be it, if you pretend to be pure, it is uglier than ugly, understand?

30. Not all efforts will succeed, but without effort, you will not succeed.

31. Girls must love themselves. No matter how much blow you encounter, no matter how bad the situation you face, don’t deprave yourself. The more you don't love yourself, the more nobody loves you.

32. Beauty, wisdom, money, and many other things are doomed by nature. Don’t try to change using your jealousy.

33. Be careful! Jealousy, hatred, and revenge are just tricks. It doesn't matter if you want to play these tricks, it's about not being discovered.

34. Set your mind, don't be sad when you lose things, you should be thinking like this, he does not belong to you.

35. Try to be an elegant woman, don't be pretentious, because pretentious women are not only hated by women, but also by men.

36. Independence, forever. No matter, emotionally or financially.

37. Um ... On what occasions do you not believe in a man? In bed, when he is happy, when he asks for you to do him a favour, and when he makes mistakes.

38. Don't try your best to show off to many people that you have many boyfriends or male friends. Because others will not envy you, they will just despise you.

39. Don't ask all day, do you love me? By the time when you ask, he doesn't love you anymore.

40. Under 20 years old, if you believe in idol drama, so be it. Over 20 years old, you still believe in idol drama, then it's over.

41. To know whether a man is good or bad, it’s not depending on his monogamy or not. Since ancient times, men have many dedications (I.e. Flower heart in Chinese), it’s depending on whether a man has self control or not.

42. Brave women are always more beautiful than coward women. If, your lover does not love you, I advise you to be brave and separate, better than cowardly entangled.

43. A woman who is good at compromise is precious. However, women who are only good at compromising are cheap.

44. Don’t be an overwhelming female; be a wise and strong woman.