Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, February 25, 2021

Ex of The Ex

Could you be friends with your Ex- boyfriends/ Ex- girlfriends?

Life is interesting, there's no forever friends nor enemies.

As social media gets our relationships exposed to the internet, and tells us the mutual connections we have, the world becomes smaller. With Linkedin, Twitter, and Facebook, you could even come across your ex's Ex. You could start chit chating with them if you are bold enough and if you like it. Somehow, you may find a friend that is similar to you because your ex probably chooses you because you're similar type as his/her ex. That's why life is a circle, it connects us all.

I am an easy going and open minded person, so I don't refuse being friends with anyone. Anyone could inspire me in some way and I appreciate that. I am honest to myself and my feelings, and if something doesn't feel right, I probably won't do it. After all, it all comes to our own peace, happiness, and perceptions towards life.  

Love yourself first before you know how to love others. Don't torture yourselves with negative emotions.

Treat yourself nicely and pursue your passions, then good luck, opening gates, and positive energy will come to you. 



Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Don’t be afraid to trust


When you find someone you want to believe and love wholeheartedly, go for it. I’m not saying that you don’t do due diligence. Do your due diligence and trust 100%. At the end of the day, you got nothing to lose. If the person proves that himself/herself worth your trust, you win; if not, you still win, because you have given love to the person without expecting any rewards. That’s the highest practice for love. If that trust costs some money, then so be it, money is nothing but a tool, depending on how we use it. The goal is feeling happy and healthy!

Monday, April 9, 2018

Story Tellers

There’re always two sides of a story so be more understanding and less judgmental.
The purpose of life is to fully extend our potentials and have as few regrets as possible!




Thursday, March 8, 2018

Maturity

Maturity is the ability to accept ambiguity and to postpone gratification - quoted from Sigmund Freud @ Kantaro Sweet tooth Salary Man :)

Saturday, February 24, 2018

真相 Truth


(Chinese/English Below)

我身邊的人們總説看世糊塗一點,你就會快樂一點。這是真的嗎?

我是個對機會說好及對真相好奇的人。要裝傻實在需要360度的高智能。精明變成我的習慣,在香港這繁忙城市長大的我絕對不是一個懞懂的女孩。初中從同學們的人際關係中已知社會品流複雜多變。努力半工半讀的我也年紀輕輕打過超出十五份工,工作交際能力中等,感情及閲人經歷不淺。我喜歡新鮮事物,但也重視留在自己身邊的人事物。

真相可能是殘酷的,但我寧願知多,好過知少。「死心塌地」去對一樣野或一個人已不是潮流,這個世代訊息萬變,我們已無形地不忠。正因如此,忠誠善良更顯可貴,信任更需要勇氣了。在這世代生存,有時我也不經不覺地成了木頭娃娃或機器人,需要改變去讓自己變得不麻木。

每一刻我都努力地在了解自己,捉摸自己的心思,善待自己。只有如此,我才懂怎樣愛更多的人及這個世界。

寫這個專欄是為了記下自己的感悟,也希望跟我有緣的你會明白我多一些。感恩合十!

People around me always say that if you look at reality through blurry lens, you will be happier. is this true?

I am a person who says yes to opportunities and is curious about the truth. It takes 360 degrees of high intelligence to pretend to be stupid. Smartness has become my habit. I grew up in a busy city like Hong Kong, and I am definitely not a girl who does not understand reality. Since middle school, I realized society and interpersonal relationships are complicated and changeable. It is known as social quality. I studied hard and worked part-time. I had worked more than fifteen different jobs at a young age. I have moderate communication skills, and I have moderate experiences regarding relationships and people-reading. I like new things, but I also value people and things around me.

The truth may be cruel, but I would rather know more than know less. It's no longer the trend to only focus on one field or one person. The message of this generation is changing and we are invisibly unfaithful. For this reason, loyalty and kindness are more valuable, and trust requires courage. In this generation of survival, sometimes I become a wooden doll or robot without knowing it, and I need to change to make myself not numb.

Every moment I try to understand myself, grasp my mind, and treat myself kindly. Only in this way can I know how to love more people and the world.

I wrote this blog to record my feelings, and hope that if you are close to me, you will understand me more. Feeling thankful and grateful!



Wednesday, February 21, 2018

大樹隨想 Imagination of Tree (Chin/Eng)

Photo by Yu Man

我是一棵大樹,在这片陌生的土地紥根。
你是一隻小鳥,在這片自由的天空飛翔。

當你疲倦,孤獨,和煩惱時,我希望能展開我的枝節臂彎讓你棲息。
我當然相信你能飛得越高越遠越好,但我真正關心的是你在飛的過程中是否有強健的體魄及開朗的心情。你也可以在我的身體上建立巢穴,開展家庭。無論強風吹襲,或曰曬雨淋,我仍是我,仍在厚實地服務着你。強風暴雨只會讓我更強大,更能茁壯成長!

到有一天,我老了,病了,去世了。我的靈魂及影子會留在你的回憶中。我的骨灰會撒在這棵樹上。落紅不是無情物,化作春泥更護花。我仍是那棵孕育過生命的大樹🌳

— 雯創作


I am a tree, rooting in this new land.
You are a bird, flying in this free sky.

When you feel tired, lonely, and frustrated, I hope to embrace you with my branch arms for you to rest on.

I absolutely believe that you can fly to the highest, the furthest, and the best. However, what I really care about is if you are healthy and happy during your flight. You can create nests and start families on my body. No matter how strong the wind is, how hot the sun is, or how heavy the rain is, I am still me, I am still serving you wholeheartedly. Big wind and heavy rain make me grow faster and stronger!

One day, I will grow old, get sick, and pass away. My soul and shadow will be captured in your memory. My ash will be spreaded on this tree. When a flower dies, it’s selfless, its leaves and petals become the fertilizer of the nature and help the other flowers grow. I am still that tree which has helped the other lives grow. 🌳

—  Created by Yu Man

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

生活隨筆 Life Random Notes (Chin/Eng)



寫日記成為我的習慣。寫了十三年,珍藏了十多本大大小小,琳琅滿目的日記本。十年前從香港到美國,直到現在,我堅持寫繁體中文,因為我不想忘記我的根源及文化。我愛我土生土長的,博大精深的中華文化!

手寫日記的好處是能記錄自己當時的心情及得著。手寫字體會隨著心境而改變,心情好時會寫得整齊點,心情不好的話,字體就像打風般東歪西倒。幾經風霜後,再回顧細味自己的成長心路歷程,是多麼美妙的事!每次我一遇到難關,就會記下一點一滴的回憶,和自己聊天,不經不覺就能自我調解,身心舒𣈱。

人的自重感真大啊!每個人都希望被重視,被關注,被尊重。其實,我們自身就是自己最佳的信徒,觀眾,及讀者。我來做個實驗吧,當被指責時,你的第一反應是恨對方,想回激對方, 還是保持沈默?我會嘗試抽離角色,把自己看成別人,心平氣和地去思考如何解決問題,提出建議。這比漫罵及問責來得有意義。我反對暴力,剝削,和剛愎自用。

我不怕一个人,我只怕痛及冷 :P 所以小時候的我會出盡全力鑽到桌下,為的是避開醫生替我打針;到十九歳才敢穿耳洞;也盡量避免刻骨銘心又爛尾的愛情,減少心痛的次數。我對經歷十級痛而誕下親生骨肉的偉大母親們,佩服得五體投地。

因為怕冷,我會在家冬眠,在溫暖的被窩裏策劃著未來。睡覺是我的本領,基本上任何狀況我都能熟睡。睡覺既能養顏,又能消愁,何樂而不為?除非枕邊人的咕嚕聲太大,或當天喝了咖啡因,我才會睡不著,要起床活動看書直到睏為止。

生活上仍有很多人事物令我百思不得其解,但我的好奇心是源源不絕的。只有抱着這顆歷奇之心,才讓我對明天感到有希望和趣味!活到老學到老。

Keeping a diary becomes my habit. After writing for more than 13 years, I have collected more than ten large and small diaries. Ten years ago moving from Hong Kong to the United States, until now, I insist on writing Traditional Chinese, because I do not want to forget my root and culture. I love my native Cantonese culture, broad and profound!

The advantage of a handwritten diary is that you can record your mood at the time and get inspirations from it. The handwriting font will change with the mood. When you are in a good mood, you will write it neatly. If you are in a bad mood, the font will be messy like a storm. After many winds and frosts, it is so wonderful to look back at your own growth journey! Every time I encounter difficulties, I will write down my memories one by one, chat with myself, and I can mediate myself without even knowing it.

The sense of self-respect is so great! Everyone wants to be valued, paid attention, and respected. In fact, we ourselves are our best believers, viewers, and readers. Let me do an experiment. When you are accused by others, your first reaction is to hate the other party, want to repel the other party, or remain silent? I will try to pull away from the role, treat myself as someone else, calmly think about how to solve the problem, and make suggestions. This is more meaningful than scolding about accountability. I oppose violence, exploitation, and arrogance. 

I’m not afraid of being alone, I ’m only afraid of pain and cold though (: P) For examples, when I was young, I would do my best to drill and hide under the table, in order to avoid the doctor to give me a painful injection; I waited to get the “achy”ear piercing until 19 years old; to reduce the number of heartaches from bad results, I tried to avoid input too much effort into loving relationships. I admire the great mothers who gave birth to their own flesh and blood babies after experiencing ten levels of pain.

As for preventing the cold, I would hibernate at home and plan the future in the warm bed. Sleeping is my skill, basically I can sleep soundly in any situation. Sleeping can improve beauty and relieve worries, why not do it more? Unless there’s loud gurgling of the person next to my pillow, or I drink caffeine that day, I will not be able to fall asleep and will have to wake up and read until I am sleepy.

There are still many people and things in life that puzzle me, but my curiosity is endless. Only holding this adventure heart makes me feel hopeful and interesting for tomorrow! Live and learn.


Tuesday, December 26, 2017

2017 大事回顾 2017 Reflections (Chin/Eng)

距离2018年还有五天,不知道今年的你有什么改变呢?

我就选择了一条新的路. 可以说让自己过了写意的一年.

年初的时候, 反思税务所的工作, 我觉得繁多的数据处理是将会被人工智能取代的.

我想尽早的发展自己的其他强项例如管理,顾客服务,沟通,和创作, 学习新事物, 挑战自己.

人生是充满希望的! 虽然人生不如意事十常八九, 但是我们的勇气,情商,和智慧会带领我们冲破难关.

There are five days left towards 2018. I don't know what changes have you made this year?

I chose a new way. It can be said that let me have a free year.

At the beginning of the year, to reflect on the work of the tax office, I think that a lot of data processing will be replaced by artificial intelligence.

I want to develop my other strengths as soon as possible such as management, customer service, communication, creation, learning new things, and challenging myself.

Life is full of hope! Although life is not always satisfactory, our courage, emotional intelligence, and wisdom will lead us through the difficulties.

Monday, May 15, 2017

SPCC


St. Paul's Coeducational College (SPCC) - an awesome school that I spent my age of 11-18 there.
This centenary school has taught me many things - how to swim, sing, dance, learn, volunteer, be confident, and be a leader. My fellow schoolmate Jason created the following song to celebrate the graduation class of 2014 and filmed every remarkable corners of the school, bringing me back to memories :) Hope you enjoy it as well!

https://youtu.be/ItFS25fZ3hY

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Most Pitiful Breakup

It's never a pity to break up for money, not to mention only for the 100,000 lottery winnings. I dare to say that, if you don't break up, you will definitely lose more than the current loss soon. The real pity is to break up for love, but you still have to break up when you are still in love. You have a hard time to say, and you can’t argue. You can only kill your front teeth and swallow the blood. This breakup is really a pity.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

2016 大事回顧 2016 Self Reflections (Chin/Eng)

轉眼間,一年又過去了。

我的記憶力有限,只記着好事:

1)増進了知識及人生智慧
2)事業新方向及發展
3)遊历了新地方,也首次試了一个人的旅行

前面的路仍長,也会有新難关及挑战, 我相信自己能堅毅不屈的努力前行。
凡事平常心面对!

In a flash, a year passed. My memory is limited and I only remember good things:
1) Increased knowledge and wisdom of life
2) New business direction and development
3) I visited a new place and tried a solo trip for the first time
The road ahead is still long, and there will be new difficulties and challenges. I believe I can move forward with determination and perseverance. Face everything with ordinarily calm heart!

Thursday, December 17, 2015

Stay Positive!!

Be happy, stay positive!!

You can do it!! Say a positive thing twenty times to yourself when you are feeling down. Your subconscious mind will sense it and brighten your mood!

Set short and simple goals and achieve them, then you'll feel happier about yourself.

If you try to achieve a big and challenging goal but you are not running while everyone else is running to achieve it, you'll feel frustrated. If so, there are two options: either you set a lower expectation that you can walk to meet it, or you keep a high expectation but make sure you run and be aggressive enough to satisfy it.

Saturday, November 1, 2014

Travel in the United States 2014

East Coast Trip in Oct 2014 ( Appreciate the Autumn Colors)
States visited:
New York
Connecticut
Massachusetts
New Hampshire
Rhode Island
Maine
Vermont
New Jersey
Pennsylvania
Maryland
Washington D.C.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Travel in 2012 and 2013

Nov 2012 Travel to Nanjing in China


Haven't posted anything here for a long time. And here comes the end of the year again.

I can see myself growing. It's nice to read back what I wrote before. Who cares about this blog. I wonder. I make this public, but I don't really promote it to people. It's been a contradicting need of self-awareness.

I don't expect people around me would read my blog, because I am sure there are so many more important things in their lives that they are more concern about.

If you are the person who is following my blog, thanks for your time! I hope this is helpful and inspiring to you.


July 2013 Road trip:
States Covered:
California
Arizona
Utah
Nevada
Colorado
Wyoming
South Dakota




Sunday, November 13, 2011

女人三养 Three Cultivation for Ladies


世上没有丑女人,只有懒女人。
所以,女人要注重三养:保养,修养,涵养。
保养是皮肤和外形上的保养。
修养是仪态和礼貌上的培养。
而涵养就是知识和道德上的修为。
加油呀!女人们*

There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women. Therefore, women should pay attention to three cultivations: maintenance, self-cultivation and elegance. Maintenance is the maintenance of skin and appearance. Self-cultivation is the cultivation of manners and politeness. Elegance is the cultivation of knowledge and morality. Keep it up! Ladies*

Sunday, October 23, 2011

True friendships


A message to share about friendship

Real vs. ordinary
An ordinary friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders for you to rely on.

An ordinary friend does not know your parents' last name. A real friend has their phone numbers in the address book.

An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend will come to help you prepare early and leave later to help you clean.

An ordinary friend hates you calling after he has fallen asleep. A real friend will appreciate you call no matter what moment.

An ordinary friend asks you to talk about your troubles. A true friend is looking for you to solve your problems.

An ordinary friend is curious about your romance. A true friend can threaten you to share your stories.

An ordinary friend visits like a guest. A real friend will open the refrigerator to take things by himself/herself.

An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after an argument. A true friend understands that when you haven't fought, it is not true friendship.

An ordinary friend expects you to stay with him/her forever. A true friend expects him/her to be by your side forever!

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Words speak louder than pictures


As youtube, facebook and microblog are popular, blogs relied on writings, such as xanga and blogspot, lose their popularity. However, I still think words are more powerful than images. It's because writings show a person's knowledgeable thoughts, life philosophy, and level of writing skills. Sentences leave readers a space and time to imagine. Reading and writing cultivate patience in our minds. In contrast, eye-catching images and videos have already quickly exposed the realistic pictures and facts. Therefore, I would encourage people around me to keep the valuable habits of writing and reading.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

執著 Loss and Gain


人為何執著呢?因為我們對某些事情認真,投放了大量的心血,最後若結果不如理想,就會失望。 我們會執著於不同之事,如成績、感情、事業、金錢,甚至自我形象。當我們在只著眼於自己失去了什麼,抱怨自己有多不幸時,為何不慶幸自己得到了多少呢?我們仍活著,還有寶貴的時間、親友無私的關懷、以及上天的眷顧。

「失去」只是襯托「得到」。:)

Why are people persistent and stubborn? Because we are serious about certain things, we put in meaningful efforts during the process, and in the end, if the results are not as good as expected, we will be disappointed. We will cling our emotions to different things, such as grades, feelings, career, money, and even self-image. When we only focus on what we have lost and repeat how unfortunate we are, why not be thankful how much we have gained? We are still alive, with precious time, unselfish care from relatives and friends, and humanity wisdom.
"Loss" is only to "gain". :)

Saturday, August 20, 2011

幸福 Happiness



“幸福不是你房子有多大 ,而是房子里的笑声有多甜.
幸福不是你开多豪华的车 ,而是你开着车平安到家.
幸福不是你的爱人有多漂亮 而是爱人的笑容有多灿烂.”

小时侯,幸福是一件东西,拥有就幸福;长大后,幸福是一个目标,达到就幸福;成熟后,发现幸福原来是一种心态,领悟就幸福。                       ---from 时尚小资馆。

幸福,没有捷径, 只有经营                       ----范范的“最重要的决定”。

就我来说,小时候有父母,老师,大人们的赞美,就觉得乐翻天;
长大后,为了追求美好的生活条件而努力,似乎是达到的话就会满足,
但是发现原来智慧就已经为我带来了心灵上的幸福, 因为心中人性的爱。 
前两个阶段只是局限于被爱,我猜到年纪大了,可以有更大的能力去爱人和帮人, 该会得到更大的喜乐吧! 

"Happiness is not how big your house is, but how sweet the laughter in the house is. Happiness is not about how luxurious the car you drive, but that you drive home safely.
Happiness is not how beautiful your lover is, but how bright your lover's smile is. "

When I was young, happiness is a thing, and happiness comes from having it; when I grow up, happiness is a goal, and happiness is achieved; after maturity, I find that happiness turns out to be a state of mind, and understanding leads to happiness. --- from Fashion Petty Museum.

Happiness, no shortcuts, only building and managing -Fan Fan's "most important decision".


As far as I am concerned, when I was a child, I felt happy when there were parents, teachers, and adults who complimented me. When I grow up, I worked hard to pursue a better living condition. It seemed to be achieved, I was satisfied. But I discovered that wisdom has brought me happiness in my heart, because there is the love of the humanity in my heart. The first two stages are limited to being loved. I guess when you are older, you can have a greater ability to love and help others. You will get more joy!