Story Tellers

There’re always two sides of a story so be more understanding and less judgmental.
The purpose of life is to fully extend our potentials and have as few regrets as possible!

Positive thinking

Life is all about making positive impacts!

真相 Truth

(Chinese/English Below)

我身邊的人們總説看世糊塗一點，你就會快樂一點。這是真的嗎？

我是個對機會說好及對真相好奇的人。要裝傻實在需要360度的高智能。精明變成我的習慣，在香港這繁忙城市長大的我絕對不是一個懞懂的女孩。初中從同學們的人際關係中已知社會品流複雜多變。努力半工半讀的我也年紀輕輕打過超出十五份工，工作交際能力中等，感情及閲人經歷不淺。我喜歡新鮮事物，但也重視留在自己身邊的人事物。

真相可能是殘酷的，但我寧願知多，好過知少。「死心塌地」去對一樣野或一個人已不是潮流，這個世代訊息萬變，我們已無形地不忠。正因如此，忠誠善良更顯可貴，信任更需要勇氣了。在這世代生存，有時我也不經不覺地成了木頭娃娃或機器人，需要改變去讓自己變得不麻木。

每一刻我都努力地在了解自己，捉摸自己的心思，善待自己。只有如此，我才懂怎樣愛更多的人及這個世界。

寫這個專欄是為了記下自己的感悟，也希望跟我有緣的你會明白我多一些。感恩合十!

People around me always say that if you look at reality through blurry lens, you will be happier. is this true?

I am a person who says yes to opportunities and is curious about the truth. It takes 360 degrees of high intelligence to pretend to be stupid. Smartness has become my habit. I grew up in a busy city like Hong Kong, and I am definitely not a girl who does not understand reality. Since middle school, I realized society and interpersonal relationships are complicated and changeable. It is known as social quality. I studied hard and worked part-time. I had worked more than fifteen different jobs at a young age. I have moderate communication skills, and I have moderate experiences regarding relationships and people-reading. I like new things, but I also value people and things around me.

The truth may be cruel, but I would rather know more than know less. It's no longer the trend to only focus on one field or one person. The message of this generation is changing and we are invisibly unfaithful. For this reason, loyalty and kindness are more valuable, and trust requires courage. In this generation of survival, sometimes I become a wooden doll or robot without knowing it, and I need to change to make myself not numb.

Every moment I try to understand myself, grasp my mind, and treat myself kindly. Only in this way can I know how to love more people and the world.

I wrote this blog to record my feelings, and hope that if you are close to me, you will understand me more. Feeling thankful and grateful!

生活隨筆 Life Random Notes (Chin/Eng)

寫日記成為我的習慣。寫了十三年，珍藏了十多本大大小小，琳琅滿目的日記本。十年前從香港到美國，直到現在，我堅持寫繁體中文，因為我不想忘記我的根源及文化。我愛我土生土長的，博大精深的中華文化！

手寫日記的好處是能記錄自己當時的心情及得著。手寫字體會隨著心境而改變，心情好時會寫得整齊點，心情不好的話，字體就像打風般東歪西倒。幾經風霜後，再回顧細味自己的成長心路歷程，是多麼美妙的事！每次我一遇到難關，就會記下一點一滴的回憶，和自己聊天，不經不覺就能自我調解，身心舒𣈱。

人的自重感真大啊！每個人都希望被重視，被關注，被尊重。其實，我們自身就是自己最佳的信徒，觀眾，及讀者。我來做個實驗吧，當被指責時，你的第一反應是恨對方，想回激對方, 還是保持沈默？我會嘗試抽離角色，把自己看成別人，心平氣和地去思考如何解決問題，提出建議。這比漫罵及問責來得有意義。我反對暴力，剝削，和剛愎自用。

我不怕一个人，我只怕痛及冷 :P 所以小時候的我會出盡全力鑽到桌下，為的是避開醫生替我打針；到十九歳才敢穿耳洞；也盡量避免刻骨銘心又爛尾的愛情，減少心痛的次數。我對經歷十級痛而誕下親生骨肉的偉大母親們，佩服得五體投地。

因為怕冷，我會在家冬眠，在溫暖的被窩裏策劃著未來。睡覺是我的本領，基本上任何狀況我都能熟睡。睡覺既能養顏，又能消愁，何樂而不為？除非枕邊人的咕嚕聲太大，或當天喝了咖啡因，我才會睡不著，要起床活動看書直到睏為止。

生活上仍有很多人事物令我百思不得其解，但我的好奇心是源源不絕的。只有抱着這顆歷奇之心，才讓我對明天感到有希望和趣味！活到老學到老。

Keeping a diary becomes my habit. After writing for more than 13 years, I have collected more than ten large and small diaries. Ten years ago moving from Hong Kong to the United States, until now, I insist on writing Traditional Chinese, because I do not want to forget my root and culture. I love my native Cantonese culture, broad and profound!

The advantage of a handwritten diary is that you can record your mood at the time and get inspirations from it. The handwriting font will change with the mood. When you are in a good mood, you will write it neatly. If you are in a bad mood, the font will be messy like a storm. After many winds and frosts, it is so wonderful to look back at your own growth journey! Every time I encounter difficulties, I will write down my memories one by one, chat with myself, and I can mediate myself without even knowing it.

The sense of self-respect is so great! Everyone wants to be valued, paid attention, and respected. In fact, we ourselves are our best believers, viewers, and readers. Let me do an experiment. When you are accused by others, your first reaction is to hate the other party, want to repel the other party, or remain silent? I will try to pull away from the role, treat myself as someone else, calmly think about how to solve the problem, and make suggestions. This is more meaningful than scolding about accountability. I oppose violence, exploitation, and arrogance. 

I’m not afraid of being alone, I ’m only afraid of pain and cold though (: P) For examples, when I was young, I would do my best to drill and hide under the table, in order to avoid the doctor to give me a painful injection; I waited to get the “achy”ear piercing until 19 years old; to reduce the number of heartaches from bad results, I tried to avoid input too much effort into loving relationships. I admire the great mothers who gave birth to their own flesh and blood babies after experiencing ten levels of pain.

As for preventing the cold, I would hibernate at home and plan the future in the warm bed. Sleeping is my skill, basically I can sleep soundly in any situation. Sleeping can improve beauty and relieve worries, why not do it more? Unless there’s loud gurgling of the person next to my pillow, or I drink caffeine that day, I will not be able to fall asleep and will have to wake up and read until I am sleepy.

There are still many people and things in life that puzzle me, but my curiosity is endless. Only holding this adventure heart makes me feel hopeful and interesting for tomorrow! Live and learn.

2017 大事回顾 2017 Reflections (Chin/Eng)

 

 

距离2018年还有五天,不知道今年的你有什么改变呢?

我就选择了一条新的路. 可以说让自己过了写意的一年.

年初的时候, 反思税务所的工作, 我觉得繁多的数据处理是将会被人工智能取代的.

我想尽早的发展自己的其他强项例如管理,顾客服务,沟通,和创作, 学习新事物, 挑战自己.

人生是充满希望的! 虽然人生不如意事十常八九, 但是我们的勇气,情商,和智慧会带领我们冲破难关.

There are five days left towards 2018. I don't know what changes have you made this year?

I chose a new way. It can be said that let me have a free year.

At the beginning of the year, to reflect on the work of the tax office, I think that a lot of data processing will be replaced by artificial intelligence.

I want to develop my other strengths as soon as possible such as management, customer service, communication, creation, learning new things, and challenging myself.

Life is full of hope! Although life is not always satisfactory, our courage, emotional intelligence, and wisdom will lead us through the difficulties.

 

Stay dreamy,

Lilly @Lilchancart 

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SPCC

 

 

St. Paul's Coeducational College (SPCC) - an awesome school that I spent my age of 11-18 there.
This centenary school has taught me many things - how to swim, sing, dance, learn, volunteer, be confident, and be a leader. My fellow schoolmate Jason created the following song to celebrate the graduation class of 2014 and filmed every remarkable corners of the school, bringing me back to memories :) Hope you enjoy it as well!

https://youtu.be/ItFS25fZ3hY

Long-lasting Heat

Perhaps when we were young, we didn’t mind short-lived dating, because we didn’t settled for a long term relationship. However, when you have seen one firework cools down after another dies out, you will realize that there are many fireworks every year, but only the one which can maintain the heat continuously can truly warm peoples’ hearts. This fire, which can be kept hearty for the rest of life, is called True Love.

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8 Reasons to Date Travelers

 

 

There is a type of a woman who loves to walk around, she has taste, she has extensive knowledge, she knows books and manners. To men, they are like a mystery. The more they cannot guess, the more they want to guess. Guys, date girls who love to travel more. They are like an unfinished adventure novel. They have a different kind of terrifying charm that makes people want to know her more. The following 8 reasons explain why they are so "datable"!

 

1. Envious intellectual beauty

Intellectuality is the patent of mature women. They have more opportunities to go out, and store more experiences and life stories. This is the wealth of life. Such a woman will reveal a kind of wisdom that has been tempered by the years, and make people around her sneer.

 

2. Act as your social queen

What was said was not a chattering flower that started talking, but a woman who understood social etiquette. People who go abroad often know a little bit about social skills. They know what is the friendship of hosting, when they release their goodwill, and communicate with strangers in a non-hypocritical manner. This attitude towards others will make you feel comfortable with them.

3. Negotiation skills are handy!

They can retain the corners of themselves and know how to accept the smoothness of others, because mature travelers know that just a smile is enough to calm the distrust between people.

 

4. Know how to appreciate and reward yourself

Women who travel frequently often have extensive knowledge, from astronomy to geography. Intellectual women love life and walking around is a way to spoil themselves.

 

5. Dress up and tasteful life attitude

Taste may not be directly related to substance. Really tasteful women, beautiful is of course, because they can dress up. However, the clothes you wear and use are not necessarily the most expensive in the city, as long as you choose the style that suits you, you can also express a different style. Really tasteful womens’ knowledge will never be less. Women arm their minds with wisdom, not an expensive, vulgar thing. When dating a woman like this, men are enough to be proud.

 

6. Being independent, 0% princess cancer

Girls who are accustomed to going out are most confident, and they can distinguish clothing, food, shelter, and travel. This kind of girl loves freedom and is not afraid of loneliness. It is most suitable for men who do not like babysitting girlfriends and are afraid of womens’ obsession.

 

7. Be your travel guide

Independent travelers have rich experience in travel, ranging from navigation with maps, to cheap air tickets, and they are more familiar with catchpenny hotels than you in minutes. How can you not date such a funny girl and volunteer to be her flower ambassador!

 

8. Check out the future

In this generation, to test true love, you don’t need to share troubles via wars, and there is no need to cry out the trials of ghosts and gods. In fact, when you travel together, you will know more clearly whether the other person is the one you want to live with.

 

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世界上最快乐的国家排名

昨天英国智囊机构“新经济学基金会”公布了一项调查结果，他们根据“快乐星球指数”在世界178个国家和地区作了调查，发现南太平洋岛国瓦努阿图是地球上最快乐的国家。真是令人大跌眼镜了。

瓦努阿图是一个南太平洋岛国，以旅游业为主，人口不到21万，人均GDP不超过三千美元，远远低于工业发达国家，也比不上我国一些经济发达的省市。
据介绍，“快乐星球指数”是根据消费水平、国民平均寿命以及快乐满足的程度来评比的，而不是用一般的国民收入或国民生产总值等国家财富指数来评比。评比这项指数的目的是想显示生活好坏与否，不见得与高消费水平有关。换句话说，快乐与否跟有没有钱没有直接关系。

先来看一下全球最快乐的10个国家：1.瓦努阿图，2.哥伦比亚，3.哥斯达黎加，4.多米尼加，5.巴拿马，6.古巴，7.洪都拉斯，8.危地马拉，9.萨尔瓦多，10.圣文森特和格林纳丁斯。

调查结果显示，生活在富裕国家的人并不见得很快乐，请看一下八国集团成员的排名：66.意大利，81.德国，95.日本，108.英国，111.加拿大，129.法国，150.美国，172.俄罗斯。

欧洲方面，前三位的排名分别是：61.奥地利，64.冰岛，65.瑞士。最后三位的排名为：172.俄罗斯，173.爱沙尼亚，174.乌克兰。它们都是前苏联的加盟共和国，这个调查显示，从前苏联解体出来的国家大都排名偏后。

亚洲方面，排名最前的是越南，排在第12位，其它国家和地区分别为：17.菲律宾，23.印度尼西亚，31.中国，32.泰国，44.马来西亚，62.印度，84.台湾，88.香港，95.日本，102.韩国，112.巴基斯坦，131.新加坡。中国排名比较靠前，把日本和“四小龙”都比下去了。

再看一下全球最不快乐的10国家：169.土库曼斯坦，170.赤道几内亚，171 .莱索托，172.俄罗斯，173.爱沙尼亚，174.乌克兰，175.刚果，176.布隆迪，177.斯威士兰，178.津巴布韦。
从上面的排名看出，排在前10位的国家都是小国家，大部分在美洲，剩下的是岛国，他们不算贫穷，但也谈不上富裕，他们既没有中东国家丰富的石油资源，也没有北欧国家良好的福利制度，更没有八国集团强大的生产力，但他们却是全球最快乐的国家。再看看排名最后的10个国家，其中6个是非洲贫困国家，4个是前苏联加盟共和国。这一切说明了什么？如果说富裕未必能使人快乐的话，那么贫困和剧变就更容易使人忧愁。最后想请教一下各位：人若想快乐，到底需要些什么？

资讯

　　位置：位于太平洋西南部，地处澳大利亚布里斯班以东1750公里，斐济以西800公里。

　　签证：目前中国公民赴瓦不需要签证（出发前最好与瓦努阿图驻华使馆进行确认），但由于尚未开通直航，经由澳大利亚或斐济等国转机时需申请该国的过境签证。

　　气候：南部为亚热带、北部为热带海洋性气候，年平均温度25.3℃。季节与北半球相反。11月至4月为雨季，平均气温为28℃。5月至10月为干季，平均气温为23℃。

　　如何到达：中国与瓦努阿图之间尚未开通直航航线，可通过澳大利亚、斐济、新西兰、新喀里多尼亚转机前往。

　　货币及汇率：法定货币为瓦图（V a t u），缩写为V T。（1U S$=99V T，1J P¥=0.78V T）。在市内、机场的银行及酒店均可兑换外币。商业银行有Bank ANZ, Westpac等。

　　饮食：美拉尼西亚风格。当地特色食品有拉普拉普、椰子蟹。在维拉港市区能吃到法国、英国、波利尼西亚及中国、日本、越南等地料理。本地啤酒为T u r s k y。自来水可直接饮用。但在外岛最好饮用市贩的矿泉水。

　　特色饮品：卡瓦几千年前就已经出现在南太平洋，是将一种胡椒科植物的根部捣碎，经煎熬提炼出成分制成的饮品。过去一度只有酋长们独享，现在这种传统饮料已经成为当地人生活的一部分，有时也作为止痛和治病的良药。在一天的辛劳之后，两三杯卡瓦下肚，所有压力与烦恼都一扫而空。瓦努阿图的卡瓦据说是最冲的。卡瓦的色相接近于北京的豆汁，味道类似苦涩的中药。饮用卡瓦应在下午或傍晚。旅行者很难找到nakamals（卡瓦吧），可请出租司机带路或询问酒店职员。在维拉港，通常一杯的价格在100-150瓦图，初次品尝者切勿过量。在摊拿岛，女性被禁止喝和接近卡瓦。

　　购物：维拉港是瓦努阿图惟一的免税港口，在市中心海滨大道上有免税品商店。瓦努阿图本土风格的商品：草编的背包、垫子、木雕、面具、发饰等饰物、陶器、模仿仪式道具制作的工艺品及民族服装等。

　　娱乐项目：游泳、潜水、浮潜、皮划艇、帆板、香蕉船、独木舟、玻璃船观光、游艇巡游、喷气式快艇、钓鱼、深海捕鱼、高尔夫、网球、骑马、丛林探险、直升飞机探险。

　　礼仪禁忌：

　　没有收取小费的习惯。在瓦努阿图，小费和乞讨都被认为是不文明的行为。

　　拍照时（尤其在村子里）最好先征得许可。外岛居民很少穿着透明质地的服装，在民俗村和观光地以外的地方尽量避免暴露的衣着。

　　在进入村庄之前，应先征得村人的许可。直接去敲住家的门被视为不礼貌的行为。

　　在路边生长的蔬菜、水果等植物，大多为别人的私有财产，切勿随手采摘。

　　国内交通：

　　1．维拉港的出租车不按计价器行驶，乘车前一定要与司机充分确认价格。事先打听好行情是很必要的。面包车是当地人的主要交通工具，类似从前的“面的”，也是招手即停，价格要比出租车便宜许多。

　　2．租车：维拉国际机场设有AVIS、Budget等大型租赁公司的柜台。租车的基本条件为年龄在25岁以上拥有国际驾驶执照者。Discount Rentals提供半日的汽车租赁，价格由4000瓦图起。在第二大城市卢甘维尔（Luganville）也有汽车租赁服务。

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執著 Loss and Gain

 

 

人為何執著呢？因為我們對某些事情認真，投放了大量的心血，最後若結果不如理想，就會失望。 我們會執著於不同之事，如成績、感情、事業、金錢，甚至自我形象。當我們在只著眼於自己失去了什麼，抱怨自己有多不幸時，為何不慶幸自己得到了多少呢？我們仍活著，還有寶貴的時間、親友無私的關懷、以及上天的眷顧。

「失去」只是襯托「得到」。：）

Why are people persistent and stubborn? Because we are serious about certain things, we put in meaningful efforts during the process, and in the end, if the results are not as good as expected, we will be disappointed. We will cling our emotions to different things, such as grades, feelings, career, money, and even self-image. When we only focus on what we have lost and repeat how unfortunate we are, why not be thankful how much we have gained? We are still alive, with precious time, unselfish care from relatives and friends, and humanity wisdom.

"Loss" is only to "gain". :)

 

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色香味 Vision, Smell, Taste

爱情是

-山水墨画的红色----譲脑袋涂上惊喜万分的色彩。

-撩动神经的香薰----令皮肤渗入像迷幻般的余香。

-呆板生活的味精----为心情添上百感交集的滋味。

Love is

-(Vision) The red color of a black and white landscape ink painting, painted mind with surprising colors.

-(Smell) A fragrance that stimulates the nerves, making the skin permeate into a psychedelic aftertaste.

-(Taste) The monosodium glutamate of life, adding a mixed feeling to the mood.

Poem Created by Lee Man

Silence

Sometimes being silent and inactive seem good. Escape from troubles.