An Inspiring Short Story of Fox

A fox found a nest of chickens and the fox was too fat to drill in, so he was hungry for three days and finally entered.

After a full meal, he couldn't get out because he’s too fat, so he had to be hungry again for three days to get out. Finally he lamented that he made himself busy due to being addicted in the process of munching.

Comprehension:

Isn't life like this?

When the stripe comes, the stripe goes, we come to the world naked and will leave world naked as well. No one can take away the wealth and merits of a lifetime of business.

It is difficult to buy back youth with the money made by youth;

It is difficult to buy back the life with the money earned by life;

It is difficult to buy back time with the money earned with time;

Even if you use your life to get the money of the world, you can't buy your life with the money of the world

Therefore, it is important to learn to rest and be happy. 

Story Tellers

There’re always two sides of a story so be more understanding and less judgmental.
The purpose of life is to fully extend our potentials and have as few regrets as possible!

Positive thinking

Life is all about making positive impacts!

Maturity

Maturity is the ability to accept ambiguity and to postpone gratification - quoted from Sigmund Freud @ Kantaro Sweet tooth Salary Man :)

真相 Truth

(Chinese/English Below)

我身邊的人們總説看世糊塗一點，你就會快樂一點。這是真的嗎？

我是個對機會說好及對真相好奇的人。要裝傻實在需要360度的高智能。精明變成我的習慣，在香港這繁忙城市長大的我絕對不是一個懞懂的女孩。初中從同學們的人際關係中已知社會品流複雜多變。努力半工半讀的我也年紀輕輕打過超出十五份工，工作交際能力中等，感情及閲人經歷不淺。我喜歡新鮮事物，但也重視留在自己身邊的人事物。

真相可能是殘酷的，但我寧願知多，好過知少。「死心塌地」去對一樣野或一個人已不是潮流，這個世代訊息萬變，我們已無形地不忠。正因如此，忠誠善良更顯可貴，信任更需要勇氣了。在這世代生存，有時我也不經不覺地成了木頭娃娃或機器人，需要改變去讓自己變得不麻木。

每一刻我都努力地在了解自己，捉摸自己的心思，善待自己。只有如此，我才懂怎樣愛更多的人及這個世界。

寫這個專欄是為了記下自己的感悟，也希望跟我有緣的你會明白我多一些。感恩合十!

People around me always say that if you look at reality through blurry lens, you will be happier. is this true?

I am a person who says yes to opportunities and is curious about the truth. It takes 360 degrees of high intelligence to pretend to be stupid. Smartness has become my habit. I grew up in a busy city like Hong Kong, and I am definitely not a girl who does not understand reality. Since middle school, I realized society and interpersonal relationships are complicated and changeable. It is known as social quality. I studied hard and worked part-time. I had worked more than fifteen different jobs at a young age. I have moderate communication skills, and I have moderate experiences regarding relationships and people-reading. I like new things, but I also value people and things around me.

The truth may be cruel, but I would rather know more than know less. It's no longer the trend to only focus on one field or one person. The message of this generation is changing and we are invisibly unfaithful. For this reason, loyalty and kindness are more valuable, and trust requires courage. In this generation of survival, sometimes I become a wooden doll or robot without knowing it, and I need to change to make myself not numb.

Every moment I try to understand myself, grasp my mind, and treat myself kindly. Only in this way can I know how to love more people and the world.

I wrote this blog to record my feelings, and hope that if you are close to me, you will understand me more. Feeling thankful and grateful!

大樹隨想 Imagination of Tree (Chin/Eng)

Photo by Yu Man

我是一棵大樹，在这片陌生的土地紥根。
你是一隻小鳥，在這片自由的天空飛翔。

當你疲倦，孤獨，和煩惱時，我希望能展開我的枝節臂彎讓你棲息。
我當然相信你能飛得越高越遠越好，但我真正關心的是你在飛的過程中是否有強健的體魄及開朗的心情。你也可以在我的身體上建立巢穴，開展家庭。無論強風吹襲，或曰曬雨淋，我仍是我，仍在厚實地服務着你。強風暴雨只會讓我更強大，更能茁壯成長！

到有一天，我老了，病了，去世了。我的靈魂及影子會留在你的回憶中。我的骨灰會撒在這棵樹上。落紅不是無情物，化作春泥更護花。我仍是那棵孕育過生命的大樹🌳

— 雯創作


I am a tree, rooting in this new land.
You are a bird, flying in this free sky.

When you feel tired, lonely, and frustrated, I hope to embrace you with my branch arms for you to rest on.

I absolutely believe that you can fly to the highest, the furthest, and the best. However, what I really care about is if you are healthy and happy during your flight. You can create nests and start families on my body. No matter how strong the wind is, how hot the sun is, or how heavy the rain is, I am still me, I am still serving you wholeheartedly. Big wind and heavy rain make me grow faster and stronger!

One day, I will grow old, get sick, and pass away. My soul and shadow will be captured in your memory. My ash will be spreaded on this tree. When a flower dies, it’s selfless, its leaves and petals become the fertilizer of the nature and help the other flowers grow. I am still that tree which has helped the other lives grow. 🌳

—  Created by Yu Man

生活隨筆 Life Random Notes (Chin/Eng)

寫日記成為我的習慣。寫了十三年，珍藏了十多本大大小小，琳琅滿目的日記本。十年前從香港到美國，直到現在，我堅持寫繁體中文，因為我不想忘記我的根源及文化。我愛我土生土長的，博大精深的中華文化！

手寫日記的好處是能記錄自己當時的心情及得著。手寫字體會隨著心境而改變，心情好時會寫得整齊點，心情不好的話，字體就像打風般東歪西倒。幾經風霜後，再回顧細味自己的成長心路歷程，是多麼美妙的事！每次我一遇到難關，就會記下一點一滴的回憶，和自己聊天，不經不覺就能自我調解，身心舒𣈱。

人的自重感真大啊！每個人都希望被重視，被關注，被尊重。其實，我們自身就是自己最佳的信徒，觀眾，及讀者。我來做個實驗吧，當被指責時，你的第一反應是恨對方，想回激對方, 還是保持沈默？我會嘗試抽離角色，把自己看成別人，心平氣和地去思考如何解決問題，提出建議。這比漫罵及問責來得有意義。我反對暴力，剝削，和剛愎自用。

我不怕一个人，我只怕痛及冷 :P 所以小時候的我會出盡全力鑽到桌下，為的是避開醫生替我打針；到十九歳才敢穿耳洞；也盡量避免刻骨銘心又爛尾的愛情，減少心痛的次數。我對經歷十級痛而誕下親生骨肉的偉大母親們，佩服得五體投地。

因為怕冷，我會在家冬眠，在溫暖的被窩裏策劃著未來。睡覺是我的本領，基本上任何狀況我都能熟睡。睡覺既能養顏，又能消愁，何樂而不為？除非枕邊人的咕嚕聲太大，或當天喝了咖啡因，我才會睡不著，要起床活動看書直到睏為止。

生活上仍有很多人事物令我百思不得其解，但我的好奇心是源源不絕的。只有抱着這顆歷奇之心，才讓我對明天感到有希望和趣味！活到老學到老。

Keeping a diary becomes my habit. After writing for more than 13 years, I have collected more than ten large and small diaries. Ten years ago moving from Hong Kong to the United States, until now, I insist on writing Traditional Chinese, because I do not want to forget my root and culture. I love my native Cantonese culture, broad and profound!

The advantage of a handwritten diary is that you can record your mood at the time and get inspirations from it. The handwriting font will change with the mood. When you are in a good mood, you will write it neatly. If you are in a bad mood, the font will be messy like a storm. After many winds and frosts, it is so wonderful to look back at your own growth journey! Every time I encounter difficulties, I will write down my memories one by one, chat with myself, and I can mediate myself without even knowing it.

The sense of self-respect is so great! Everyone wants to be valued, paid attention, and respected. In fact, we ourselves are our best believers, viewers, and readers. Let me do an experiment. When you are accused by others, your first reaction is to hate the other party, want to repel the other party, or remain silent? I will try to pull away from the role, treat myself as someone else, calmly think about how to solve the problem, and make suggestions. This is more meaningful than scolding about accountability. I oppose violence, exploitation, and arrogance. 

I’m not afraid of being alone, I ’m only afraid of pain and cold though (: P) For examples, when I was young, I would do my best to drill and hide under the table, in order to avoid the doctor to give me a painful injection; I waited to get the “achy”ear piercing until 19 years old; to reduce the number of heartaches from bad results, I tried to avoid input too much effort into loving relationships. I admire the great mothers who gave birth to their own flesh and blood babies after experiencing ten levels of pain.

As for preventing the cold, I would hibernate at home and plan the future in the warm bed. Sleeping is my skill, basically I can sleep soundly in any situation. Sleeping can improve beauty and relieve worries, why not do it more? Unless there’s loud gurgling of the person next to my pillow, or I drink caffeine that day, I will not be able to fall asleep and will have to wake up and read until I am sleepy.

There are still many people and things in life that puzzle me, but my curiosity is endless. Only holding this adventure heart makes me feel hopeful and interesting for tomorrow! Live and learn.

Friday Feelings

Ten TV shows that I feel fun to watch: (Would you like them, too?)

 @ Hulu:
1) Younger -> About a 40 year old woman pretending to be 26 year old and find her happiness
2) Rick & Morty -> A sci-fi cartoon about a grandpa and grandson going on crazy adventures

@ Netflix:
3) Sense 8 -> Eight people in different parts of the world connect their minds and share knowledges
4) Anne with an e - > A talkative orphan Anne does her best to be strong, likeable, and useful
5) Girl boss -> Sophie's story at her early 20s creating her fashion start up Nasty Gal
6) Crazy ex-girlfriend -> Rebecca implements crazy ideas to get back with her love Josh
7) Chef's Table -> Stories behind the chefs of The top 50 restaurants in the world for fine dining
8) Sherlock-> Modernized Sherlock and John and their detective stories in England
9) NaNa -> Japanese Manga Animation about two young girls' friendship and pursuit of their dreams
10) Death Note -> Japanese Manga Animation about a strategic story of a young man and justice



@YouTube:
11) 消失的國界 -> A Taiwanese documentary about innovative ideas around the world
12) RTHK -> A Hong Kong 🇭🇰 documentary for current affairs


Entertainment is so important to keep life going. Any stress relief activities that make people happy including myself? I'm in

                                             My Yoga @ Skydeck on top of downtown Chicago

8 Reasons to Date Travelers

There is a type of a woman who loves to walk around, she has taste, she has extensive knowledge, she knows books and manners. To men, they are like a mystery. The more they cannot guess, the more they want to guess. Guys, date girls who love to travel more. They are like an unfinished adventure novel. They have a different kind of terrifying charm that makes people want to know her more. The following 8 reasons explain why they are so "datable"!

1. Envious intellectual beauty

Intellectuality is the patent of mature women. They have more opportunities to go out, and store more experiences and life stories. This is the wealth of life. Such a woman will reveal a kind of wisdom that has been tempered by the years, and make people around her sneer.

2. Act as your social queen

What was said was not a chattering flower that started talking, but a woman who understood social etiquette. People who go abroad often know a little bit about social skills. They know what is the friendship of hosting, when they release their goodwill, and communicate with strangers in a non-hypocritical manner. This attitude towards others will make you feel comfortable with them.
3. Negotiation skills are handy!

They can retain the corners of themselves and know how to accept the smoothness of others, because mature travelers know that just a smile is enough to calm the distrust between people.

4. Know how to appreciate and reward yourself

Women who travel frequently often have extensive knowledge, from astronomy to geography. Intellectual women love life and walking around is a way to spoil themselves.

5. Dress up and tasteful life attitude

Taste may not be directly related to substance. Really tasteful women, beautiful is of course, because they can dress up. However, the clothes you wear and use are not necessarily the most expensive in the city, as long as you choose the style that suits you, you can also express a different style. Really tasteful womens’ knowledge will never be less. Women arm their minds with wisdom, not an expensive, vulgar thing. When dating a woman like this, men are enough to be proud.

6. Being independent, 0% princess cancer

Girls who are accustomed to going out are most confident, and they can distinguish clothing, food, shelter, and travel. This kind of girl loves freedom and is not afraid of loneliness. It is most suitable for men who do not like babysitting girlfriends and are afraid of womens’ obsession.

7. Be your travel guide

Independent travelers have rich experience in travel, ranging from navigation with maps, to cheap air tickets, and they are more familiar with catchpenny hotels than you in minutes. How can you not date such a funny girl and volunteer to be her flower ambassador!

8. Check out the future

In this generation, to test true love, you don’t need to share troubles via wars, and there is no need to cry out the trials of ghosts and gods. In fact, when you travel together, you will know more clearly whether the other person is the one you want to live with.

2015 Highlights

HOME SWEET HOME

Mom's visit Apr - July 2015

My dearest sis became a college grad!

Growing up a lot

                                          

Working hard at my firm!

A year is passing soon. Make it count!

Please "Like" our cooking video on Youtube

Hi everyone, ^^

Sharon and I join the cooking contest on youtube which calls "Delicious Seoul Story".

There are 3 ways to support us to win the contest:

1. Click "like" on our video and invite your friends to like it as well. (Need to login either your gmail/ youtube acc to "like" it)

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3. Leave a comment on our video response

40% of score depends on no. of "likes" and "views",
60% of score will be based on judges

Last year, we joined the contest (search "juk of love" on youtube). Although we did not win, we would like to try it again this year. Your "likes" and views" mean a lot to us. We really want to win the contest and get a free trip to Korea to join the final round of cooking contest over there.

Please help spread the words and "Share" it on your facebook. Thank you! :) The event is from NOW till August 17th.

模特儿 Modeling

(2011) I recently discovered the top ten most profitable supermodels in the world that three of them from Brazil, and the Brazilian girls are really charming. It is a pity that no Asian girl or African girl can be ranked in the top ten yet. I heard that there are Liu Wen, Lv Yan, etc. from China. They are tall, not to mention, and their unique oriental faces. They should be able to compete with European faces. I hoped that one day, the world can get rid of the aesthetics defined by the West and have proud standards of independence. 

(2020) But and then since the D&G Asian model using chopsticks to eat pizza incident, many Chinese people got mad about the joke. Zara model who has unique beauty appreciated by the top designer, had faced brutal criticism by her own people. Why would Chinese people embrace western appearance (big eyes, straight nose) more than their own beauty? As a Oriental girl who’s born in HK, I appreciate my own face because firstly it’s a gift from my parents, and secondly a Chinese model should look Chinese! What’s wrong and shameful with that? We should be proud of our outlooks. The true power lies with accepting differences in a harmonious way. 

最近发现十大全球最赚钱名模，其中三位是来自巴西，巴西女孩果然魅力十足。可惜的是，没有一位亚洲女孩或非洲女孩能跻身于十大。听说中国出品的有杜鹃，刘雯，吕燕等，她们身材很高不在话下，还有她们独特的东方脸孔，应该可以跟西方脸一较高下吧。我希望终有一天，世人可以摆脱西方界定的审美观，而有引以自豪的独立标准。(2011记)

但是自從D＆G亞洲人使用筷子吃披薩的事件發生後，許多中國人對這個笑話感到生氣。擁有頂級設計師獨特美感的Zara模特，曾受到本國人民的殘酷批評。為什麼中國人比西方人更喜歡西方的外觀（大眼睛，鼻子挺直）？作為在香港出生的東方女孩，我很欣賞自己的臉，因為首先這是我父母送給我的禮物，其次，中國模特應該看起來像中國人！這是什麼錯和可恥的？我們應該為我們的容貌感到自豪。真正的力量在於以和諧的方式接受差異。(2020记）

From a friend : good life philosophy

1. Mistakes are temporary regrets, and missing the opportunities are forever regrets! Don't be afraid of mistakes and miss the chances.

2. Rather forgiving others yourself, than letting others forgive you.

3. The world doesn't belong to you originally, so you don't need to abandon it. What you want to abandon is all stubbornness. All is what for me to use, but not for me to own.

4. You have your view of life, I have my view of life, and I do not interfere with you. If I was able to influence your view, then I would reform you. If not, then I would resign to fate.

5. If you are going to get married, tell you a very important philosophical saying: "You must be patient with each other's shortcomings. There is no absolute happiness and perfect marriage in the world. Happiness only comes from unlimited tolerance and mutual respect.

6. My wealth is not that I have a lot, but that I ask for very little.

7. It's not that someone annoys me, but that I annoy myself with someone's words and deeds.

8. Living in the applause of others are people who can't stand the test.

9. If you can shout "I don't need to worry about this little thing" 21 times a day, you will find that there is an incredible power in your heart. Try it, it works.

10. If you can let go of everything, you’ll be a free human in the world.

11. Thank God for what I have, thank God for what I don't have.

12. Coming is accidental, and going is inevitable. So you have to let it be if things stay still and stay still to let it be.

13. A stupid person always wants others to understand him/her. Wise people try hard to understand themselves.

14. To tell a lie, you have to make up ten lies to cover up, why bother?

15. You don't have to look back to see who is cursing you? If a mad dog bites you, do you have to lie down and bite it?

16. Arrogant people could be saved, inferior people could not be saved.

17. Whenever you let go, whenever you’ll have no trouble and worry.

18. The reason why people suffer is due to pursuing the wrong things.

19. It is better to say that your own self-cultivation is not strong enough than saying that the others to make you suffer.

20. Fate is responsible for shuffling the cards, but it is our own choices to play the cards!

21. If you live one more day, you are blessed and you should cherish it. When I cried and complained that I have no shoes to wear, I found that someone in the world has no feet.

Opportunities

After watching the 10-year-transformation story of Lv Yan, who is the Chinese Top Model in Paris and New York, I realize that the key to success is going for each opportunity we have. Lv Yan gives me the impression that she is optimistic, brave to try, and she says "yes" to every opportunity. Therefore, she gains a successful life. She does not only gain fame and money, but she also maximizes her personal value in the fashion industry. I hope I can also treasure all the valuable chances in my life and become an useful person=)