Ex of The Ex

Could you be friends with your Ex- boyfriends/ Ex- girlfriends?

Life is interesting, there's no forever friends nor enemies.

As social media gets our relationships exposed to the internet, and tells us the mutual connections we have, the world becomes smaller. With Linkedin, Twitter, and Facebook, you could even come across your ex's Ex. You could start chit chating with them if you are bold enough and if you like it. Somehow, you may find a friend that is similar to you because your ex probably chooses you because you're similar type as his/her ex. That's why life is a circle, it connects us all.

I am an easy going and open minded person, so I don't refuse being friends with anyone. Anyone could inspire me in some way and I appreciate that. I am honest to myself and my feelings, and if something doesn't feel right, I probably won't do it. After all, it all comes to our own peace, happiness, and perceptions towards life.  

Love yourself first before you know how to love others. Don't torture yourselves with negative emotions.

Treat yourself nicely and pursue your passions, then good luck, opening gates, and positive energy will come to you. 

Friday Feelings

Ten TV shows that I feel fun to watch: (Would you like them, too?)

 @ Hulu:
1) Younger -> About a 40 year old woman pretending to be 26 year old and find her happiness
2) Rick & Morty -> A sci-fi cartoon about a grandpa and grandson going on crazy adventures

@ Netflix:
3) Sense 8 -> Eight people in different parts of the world connect their minds and share knowledges
4) Anne with an e - > A talkative orphan Anne does her best to be strong, likeable, and useful
5) Girl boss -> Sophie's story at her early 20s creating her fashion start up Nasty Gal
6) Crazy ex-girlfriend -> Rebecca implements crazy ideas to get back with her love Josh
7) Chef's Table -> Stories behind the chefs of The top 50 restaurants in the world for fine dining
8) Sherlock-> Modernized Sherlock and John and their detective stories in England
9) NaNa -> Japanese Manga Animation about two young girls' friendship and pursuit of their dreams
10) Death Note -> Japanese Manga Animation about a strategic story of a young man and justice



@YouTube:
11) 消失的國界 -> A Taiwanese documentary about innovative ideas around the world
12) RTHK -> A Hong Kong 🇭🇰 documentary for current affairs


Entertainment is so important to keep life going. Any stress relief activities that make people happy including myself? I'm in

                                             My Yoga @ Skydeck on top of downtown Chicago

Implementing dreams

My childhood dream is about to becoming more true!! I still remember when my high school Psychology teacher asked us, 'What're your dreams?' My classmates answered occupations like doctor, teacher, scientist, artist, etc. However, I replied, 'I want to be a world traveler'. Looking at the map, there're around 190 countries in the world and I wanted to visit as many of them as possible in my lifetime. One of my classmates listened to my answer and teased me, 'Wow, Lillian, you have already thought about retiring plan?' I laughed and everyone in the class laughed too. NO, we don't need to wait to travel until we get old and wealthy. We can dream big and start small, most importantly, start now.

I'm very excited to save up $$ and go traveling around the world. Of course it'll take some time to arrange and implement between work, family, and travel. My goal is to achieve it in five years to finish stepping on the seven continents. By doing that, I aim at experiencing various cultures, documenting inspirations/business ideas, discovering myself, and becoming more open-minded.

Traveling certainly brings me happiness, fulfillment, and opportunities. I always agree that education and travel are two of the greatest investments of my money and time in life. Growing up in Asia and living in N. America, I have checked out two wonderful 'continents' (can't find any other synonyms for this word..). My next goal is Europe -> Asia -> Australia. I have many interests but traveling is my biggest passion. I enjoy finding ways to spend the least but to see the most.

My another goal is contributing the best I can to the societies and communities. I want to volunteer in numerous places and meet different people. Then, I can call it 'my life'!

Beginner's mind - Life is a Gritty Marathon

Merry Christmas!



Very inspiring 10 Ted Talks to recommend which might worth more than a MBA:

Process>Outcome
Smartness is a talent and Kindness is a choice. I feel that Kindness is more precious to find in Today's Society.

They are all very insightful speeches. My favorites:
3. Angela Lee Duckworth: The Key to Success? Grit.
4. Srikumar Rao: Plug into your Hardwired Happiness.
6. Ramsey Musallam: 3 Rules to Spark Learning
1. Carol Deweck: The Power of Believing that you Can Improve

女人三养 Three Cultivation for Ladies

世上没有丑女人，只有懒女人。
所以，女人要注重三养：保养，修养，涵养。
保养是皮肤和外形上的保养。
修养是仪态和礼貌上的培养。
而涵养就是知识和道德上的修为。
加油呀！女人们*

There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women. Therefore, women should pay attention to three cultivations: maintenance, self-cultivation and elegance. Maintenance is the maintenance of skin and appearance. Self-cultivation is the cultivation of manners and politeness. Elegance is the cultivation of knowledge and morality. Keep it up! Ladies*

True friendships

A message to share about friendship

Real vs. ordinary

An ordinary friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders for you to rely on.

An ordinary friend does not know your parents' last name. A real friend has their phone numbers in the address book.

An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend will come to help you prepare early and leave later to help you clean.

An ordinary friend hates you calling after he has fallen asleep. A real friend will appreciate you call no matter what moment.

An ordinary friend asks you to talk about your troubles. A true friend is looking for you to solve your problems.

An ordinary friend is curious about your romance. A true friend can threaten you to share your stories.

An ordinary friend visits like a guest. A real friend will open the refrigerator to take things by himself/herself.

An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after an argument. A true friend understands that when you haven't fought, it is not true friendship.

An ordinary friend expects you to stay with him/her forever. A true friend expects him/her to be by your side forever!

Inspiration from the Rainbow

Life is an adventure. It gives us ups and downs. Similar to the rule of nature, we have sunny days and rainy days. However, the most beautiful and colorful rainbow is a transition from rainy to sunny periods. Rainbow reminds us that no matter how heavy the rain is, there will always be a wonderful and rewarding time coming to our lives=)

点解？Why?

理由很简单：不喜欢就是不喜欢*


The reason is simple: if you don’t like it, you don’t like it *

影子隨想 Shadow Thought

不管是日曬雨淋，黑夜白晝，或是快樂哀愁，總是有你默默地守護著我，貼身地跟隨著我。 看見你一天一天變高， 由昔日矮小的瘦皮猴，變成今天亭亭玉立的lady，心存感恩。你是我一生的好夥伴^^

Whether it's the sunny or rainy, night or day, joy or sorrow, you’re always here silently guarding me and following me closely. I am grateful to see you growing taller day by day, from the skinny monkey of the past to the slim lady of today. My Shadow, you are a good friend of my life ^^

感動 Touching Feeling

這陣子讓我感動的時刻一浪接一浪， 眼淚不自覺地暗湧出來。 從來都自覺是個眼淺的人，對別人悲哀的一言一語，都像感同身受般觸發起心如刀割之感，劇情的思緒情感也在腦內回轉千百回*

該慶倖自己還沒被成長磨合成木頭人或雪人， 到日後投身社會， 也能保持這一絲純真的感動嗎?

The moments that touched me, wave after wave, causing my tears came out unconsciously. I have always felt that I am a crybaby (shallow-eyed person), and the words of sorrow from others trigger my feeling like a knife to my heart, feeling the same way as others. 

It should be fortunate that I haven't been grown into a wooden man or a snowman. Will I still be able to keep this pure touching feeling when I join the society in the future?