模特儿 Modeling

(2011) I recently discovered the top ten most profitable supermodels in the world that three of them from Brazil, and the Brazilian girls are really charming. It is a pity that no Asian girl or African girl can be ranked in the top ten yet. I heard that there are Liu Wen, Lv Yan, etc. from China. They are tall, not to mention, and their unique oriental faces. They should be able to compete with European faces. I hoped that one day, the world can get rid of the aesthetics defined by the West and have proud standards of independence. 

(2020) But and then since the D&G Asian model using chopsticks to eat pizza incident, many Chinese people got mad about the joke. Zara model who has unique beauty appreciated by the top designer, had faced brutal criticism by her own people. Why would Chinese people embrace western appearance (big eyes, straight nose) more than their own beauty? As a Oriental girl who’s born in HK, I appreciate my own face because firstly it’s a gift from my parents, and secondly a Chinese model should look Chinese! What’s wrong and shameful with that? We should be proud of our outlooks. The true power lies with accepting differences in a harmonious way. 

最近发现十大全球最赚钱名模，其中三位是来自巴西，巴西女孩果然魅力十足。可惜的是，没有一位亚洲女孩或非洲女孩能跻身于十大。听说中国出品的有杜鹃，刘雯，吕燕等，她们身材很高不在话下，还有她们独特的东方脸孔，应该可以跟西方脸一较高下吧。我希望终有一天，世人可以摆脱西方界定的审美观，而有引以自豪的独立标准。(2011记)

但是自從D＆G亞洲人使用筷子吃披薩的事件發生後，許多中國人對這個笑話感到生氣。擁有頂級設計師獨特美感的Zara模特，曾受到本國人民的殘酷批評。為什麼中國人比西方人更喜歡西方的外觀（大眼睛，鼻子挺直）？作為在香港出生的東方女孩，我很欣賞自己的臉，因為首先這是我父母送給我的禮物，其次，中國模特應該看起來像中國人！這是什麼錯和可恥的？我們應該為我們的容貌感到自豪。真正的力量在於以和諧的方式接受差異。(2020记）

5 DEADLY WORDS USED BY WOMAN

1. FINE - this is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is RIGHT & 

YOU need to SHUT UP.

2. NOTHING - means SOMETHING & u need to be WORRIED.

3. GO AHEAD - this is a dare, not permission, do NOT do it.

4. WHATEVER - is a woman's way of saying SCREW YOU

5. THAT'S OK - she is thinking long & hard on HOW & WHEN you will pay for your mistake.

女人三养 Three Cultivation for Ladies

世上没有丑女人，只有懒女人。
所以，女人要注重三养：保养，修养，涵养。
保养是皮肤和外形上的保养。
修养是仪态和礼貌上的培养。
而涵养就是知识和道德上的修为。
加油呀！女人们*

There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women. Therefore, women should pay attention to three cultivations: maintenance, self-cultivation and elegance. Maintenance is the maintenance of skin and appearance. Self-cultivation is the cultivation of manners and politeness. Elegance is the cultivation of knowledge and morality. Keep it up! Ladies*

True friendships

A message to share about friendship

Real vs. ordinary

An ordinary friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders for you to rely on.

An ordinary friend does not know your parents' last name. A real friend has their phone numbers in the address book.

An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend will come to help you prepare early and leave later to help you clean.

An ordinary friend hates you calling after he has fallen asleep. A real friend will appreciate you call no matter what moment.

An ordinary friend asks you to talk about your troubles. A true friend is looking for you to solve your problems.

An ordinary friend is curious about your romance. A true friend can threaten you to share your stories.

An ordinary friend visits like a guest. A real friend will open the refrigerator to take things by himself/herself.

An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after an argument. A true friend understands that when you haven't fought, it is not true friendship.

An ordinary friend expects you to stay with him/her forever. A true friend expects him/her to be by your side forever!

Words speak louder than pictures

As youtube, facebook and microblog are popular, blogs relied on writings, such as xanga and blogspot, lose their popularity. However, I still think words are more powerful than images. It's because writings show a person's knowledgeable thoughts, life philosophy, and level of writing skills. Sentences leave readers a space and time to imagine. Reading and writing cultivate patience in our minds. In contrast, eye-catching images and videos have already quickly exposed the realistic pictures and facts. Therefore, I would encourage people around me to keep the valuable habits of writing and reading.

Inspiration from the Rainbow

Life is an adventure. It gives us ups and downs. Similar to the rule of nature, we have sunny days and rainy days. However, the most beautiful and colorful rainbow is a transition from rainy to sunny periods. Rainbow reminds us that no matter how heavy the rain is, there will always be a wonderful and rewarding time coming to our lives=)

執著 Loss and Gain

人為何執著呢？因為我們對某些事情認真，投放了大量的心血，最後若結果不如理想，就會失望。 我們會執著於不同之事，如成績、感情、事業、金錢，甚至自我形象。當我們在只著眼於自己失去了什麼，抱怨自己有多不幸時，為何不慶幸自己得到了多少呢？我們仍活著，還有寶貴的時間、親友無私的關懷、以及上天的眷顧。

「失去」只是襯托「得到」。：）

Why are people persistent and stubborn? Because we are serious about certain things, we put in meaningful efforts during the process, and in the end, if the results are not as good as expected, we will be disappointed. We will cling our emotions to different things, such as grades, feelings, career, money, and even self-image. When we only focus on what we have lost and repeat how unfortunate we are, why not be thankful how much we have gained? We are still alive, with precious time, unselfish care from relatives and friends, and humanity wisdom.

"Loss" is only to "gain". :)

幸福 Happiness

“幸福不是你房子有多大 ，而是房子里的笑声有多甜.
幸福不是你开多豪华的车 ，而是你开着车平安到家.
幸福不是你的爱人有多漂亮 ， 而是爱人的笑容有多灿烂.”

小时侯，幸福是一件东西，拥有就幸福；长大后，幸福是一个目标，达到就幸福；成熟后，发现幸福原来是一种心态，领悟就幸福。                       ---from 时尚小资馆。

幸福，没有捷径， 只有经营                       ----范范的“最重要的决定”。

就我来说，小时候有父母，老师，大人们的赞美，就觉得乐翻天；

长大后，为了追求美好的生活条件而努力，似乎是达到的话就会满足，

但是发现原来智慧就已经为我带来了心灵上的幸福， 因为心中有人性的爱。 

前两个阶段只是局限于被爱，我猜到年纪大了，可以有更大的能力去爱人和帮人， 该会得到更大的喜乐吧！ 

"Happiness is not how big your house is, but how sweet the laughter in the house is. Happiness is not about how luxurious the car you drive, but that you drive home safely.

Happiness is not how beautiful your lover is, but how bright your lover's smile is. "

When I was young, happiness is a thing, and happiness comes from having it; when I grow up, happiness is a goal, and happiness is achieved; after maturity, I find that happiness turns out to be a state of mind, and understanding leads to happiness. --- from Fashion Petty Museum.

Happiness, no shortcuts, only building and managing -Fan Fan's "most important decision".

As far as I am concerned, when I was a child, I felt happy when there were parents, teachers, and adults who complimented me. When I grow up, I worked hard to pursue a better living condition. It seemed to be achieved, I was satisfied. But I discovered that wisdom has brought me happiness in my heart, because there is the love of the humanity in my heart. The first two stages are limited to being loved. I guess when you are older, you can have a greater ability to love and help others. You will get more joy!

美 Beauty

爱美是女人的天性，尤其是花样年华的少女时代，应该好好绽放光芒。
但有近视的女生真的有烦恼，戴隐形眼镜怕感染细菌，做矫正视力手术成本高，难道戴眼镜的女人就没那么漂亮，减少魅力了吗？

我不這麼認為！戴眼鏡有自己的特點和魅力：）*

Loving beauty is a woman's nature, especially the girlhood in her fancy years, and it should shine well. But girls with nearsightedness are really troubled, worrying about infection of bacteria by wearing contact lenses on the one hand, and the expensive cost of corrective vision surgery on the other hand. Is wearing glasses not so beautiful, reducing woman’s charm? 

I don’t think so! Wearing glasses has its own characteristics and charm:)

点解？Why?

理由很简单：不喜欢就是不喜欢*


The reason is simple: if you don’t like it, you don’t like it *

妻比夫瘦 Wife is thinner than her husband

The secret of a happy marriage is probably not complicated: as long as the wife is thinner than her husband. A new study points out that if a woman ’s body mass index (BMI) is lower than that of her partner, both partners will be happier and more likely to maintain a happy marriage. Relativity of body weight Researchers from the University of Tennessee selected 169 couples under the age of 35 to fill in the questionnaire every 6 months for 4 years. The study found that men with a higher BMI (weight (kg) divided by height (m) squared) than their wives are happier in marriage; and women with a lower BMI than their husbands are significantly happier than other women. Researchers believe that this is because men generally believe that slim partners are more attractive, and are therefore willing to maintain relationships; slim women will feel that partners still love themselves, are more confident and feel loved, and are therefore happier. Researchers speculate that men pay more attention to their partners' appearance and weight than women, and their husband's dissatisfaction with body shape may appear at the beginning of the marriage, which makes his wife increasingly unhappy. However, the results of the study show that the main influence on the relationship between the couple is relative weight. Women with different body types can have a happy relationship as long as they find a suitable partner. It is not necessary to be slim. Experts also pointed out that men are more capable in marriage, such as income, education, height or weight, which will make women feel more secure and both men and women will be happier.

影子隨想 Shadow Thought

不管是日曬雨淋，黑夜白晝，或是快樂哀愁，總是有你默默地守護著我，貼身地跟隨著我。 看見你一天一天變高， 由昔日矮小的瘦皮猴，變成今天亭亭玉立的lady，心存感恩。你是我一生的好夥伴^^

Whether it's the sunny or rainy, night or day, joy or sorrow, you’re always here silently guarding me and following me closely. I am grateful to see you growing taller day by day, from the skinny monkey of the past to the slim lady of today. My Shadow, you are a good friend of my life ^^

感動 Touching Feeling

這陣子讓我感動的時刻一浪接一浪， 眼淚不自覺地暗湧出來。 從來都自覺是個眼淺的人，對別人悲哀的一言一語，都像感同身受般觸發起心如刀割之感，劇情的思緒情感也在腦內回轉千百回*

該慶倖自己還沒被成長磨合成木頭人或雪人， 到日後投身社會， 也能保持這一絲純真的感動嗎?

The moments that touched me, wave after wave, causing my tears came out unconsciously. I have always felt that I am a crybaby (shallow-eyed person), and the words of sorrow from others trigger my feeling like a knife to my heart, feeling the same way as others. 

It should be fortunate that I haven't been grown into a wooden man or a snowman. Will I still be able to keep this pure touching feeling when I join the society in the future?

色香味 Vision, Smell, Taste

爱情是

-山水墨画的红色----譲脑袋涂上惊喜万分的色彩。

-撩动神经的香薰----令皮肤渗入像迷幻般的余香。

-呆板生活的味精----为心情添上百感交集的滋味。

Love is

-(Vision) The red color of a black and white landscape ink painting, painted mind with surprising colors.

-(Smell) A fragrance that stimulates the nerves, making the skin permeate into a psychedelic aftertaste.

-(Taste) The monosodium glutamate of life, adding a mixed feeling to the mood.

Poem Created by Lee Man

Silence

Sometimes being silent and inactive seem good. Escape from troubles.

From a friend : good life philosophy

1. Mistakes are temporary regrets, and missing the opportunities are forever regrets! Don't be afraid of mistakes and miss the chances.

2. Rather forgiving others yourself, than letting others forgive you.

3. The world doesn't belong to you originally, so you don't need to abandon it. What you want to abandon is all stubbornness. All is what for me to use, but not for me to own.

4. You have your view of life, I have my view of life, and I do not interfere with you. If I was able to influence your view, then I would reform you. If not, then I would resign to fate.

5. If you are going to get married, tell you a very important philosophical saying: "You must be patient with each other's shortcomings. There is no absolute happiness and perfect marriage in the world. Happiness only comes from unlimited tolerance and mutual respect.

6. My wealth is not that I have a lot, but that I ask for very little.

7. It's not that someone annoys me, but that I annoy myself with someone's words and deeds.

8. Living in the applause of others are people who can't stand the test.

9. If you can shout "I don't need to worry about this little thing" 21 times a day, you will find that there is an incredible power in your heart. Try it, it works.

10. If you can let go of everything, you’ll be a free human in the world.

11. Thank God for what I have, thank God for what I don't have.

12. Coming is accidental, and going is inevitable. So you have to let it be if things stay still and stay still to let it be.

13. A stupid person always wants others to understand him/her. Wise people try hard to understand themselves.

14. To tell a lie, you have to make up ten lies to cover up, why bother?

15. You don't have to look back to see who is cursing you? If a mad dog bites you, do you have to lie down and bite it?

16. Arrogant people could be saved, inferior people could not be saved.

17. Whenever you let go, whenever you’ll have no trouble and worry.

18. The reason why people suffer is due to pursuing the wrong things.

19. It is better to say that your own self-cultivation is not strong enough than saying that the others to make you suffer.

20. Fate is responsible for shuffling the cards, but it is our own choices to play the cards!

21. If you live one more day, you are blessed and you should cherish it. When I cried and complained that I have no shoes to wear, I found that someone in the world has no feet.

Parenting and teen celebrities

An inspiring article about teen pop stars, media influence, and the importance of parenting. This explains why young talents tend to commit crimes and do immoral things. Is it because they have improper value towards money and life as well as too much freedom? (Purple Highlights)

Mom and Pop Culture

By Martha Brockenbrough
Special to MSN TV

You have to feel sorry for Billy Ray Cyrus, who just emptied the entire contents of his achy breaky heart into a long interview with GQ magazine. Among other things, he said he regrets ever letting Miley star in Disney's "Hannah Montana" franchise. And he likens her unto Kurt Cobain and Anna Nicole Smith, both of whom met sad and early ends.

But you kind of have to wonder what took the guy so long.

Almost three years ago, MSN Movies ran a Mom and Pop Culture column I wrote that asked whether she was the next Britney Spears. At the time, her sexy image and public proclamations of virginity seemed at odds with each other -- or worse, a crass marketing ploy that made her seem safe to parents (she's a virgin!) while thrilling to kids (so shiny and pretty!). Britney had made the same virginity pledge and just a few years later, was living another kind of life entirely. And things only got worse for her from there.

About a year after the first Miley column, I wrote another piece outlining the many reasons she wasn't a role model: the cell phone panty shots; the YouTube video where she made fun of Disney rivals; the arguably racist slanted eyes she made in a photograph; her threat to "ruin" Radiohead after they opted not to meet with her at the Grammys; and somehow most offensive, parking in a handicapped slot when she was on a milkshake run.

A normal teen might do any one of these things. But all of them in rapid-fire succession made for a portrait of a teen out of control -- and this is just the stuff the public found out about.

Fast forward to today. Miley has turned 18. Her TV show is over. Her parents are splitting up. She's the subject of a running gag on "Saturday Night Live." She was caught on video smoking a legal hallucinogen, and now the people who love her most are starting to worry?

In Billy Ray's defense, he admits he made mistakes as a dad, especially in trying to be a friend to his kids. As he said to the magazine, other parents would warn, "You don't need to be a friend, you need to be a parent ... I'm the first guy to say to them right now: You were right."

Anyone who has kids takes after-the-fact realizations like this as a gut-punch. Every one of us makes the best decisions we can, and then spends the wee hours of sleepless night worrying about them. It must be a nightmare to wake up after all of that and realize that the central tenet of your parenting philosophy has taken your child to places you don't want her to go.

But he still doesn't get it. Not really. He also told the magazine that he performed on "Hannah Montana" "for peanuts." "I went from $12,000 a week to, after four years ... $15,000 a week. Hell, yeah."

It's of course true that the franchise and his daughter made a whole lot more money. But anyone who scoffs at $12,000 or $15,000 a week isn't living in the real world.

This point matters -- a lot.

When you forget that most people have to work a lot harder and be a lot more careful about their choices because the margin between survival and ruin is only as thick as the next paycheck, you also forget that actions have consequences.

This is also the kind of thinking that lets you excuse your child's bad behavior and bad decisions as youthful indiscretions instead of as big, fat warning signs. If parents aren't there dishing out actual consequences, how's a kid supposed to learn anything but that the normal rules of life don't apply?

Writing this stuff off as the folly of youth almost entitles kids to do things they know are wrong. What does it really matter as long as they can keep working and making millions?

And those millions do matter. We live in this strange time where young talent is dis-proportionally revered.

If you're 15, great-looking, and can sing and dance, there's a chance you could become a megastar before you get your driver's license.

But if you wait too long to reach for the brass ring, you might miss your chance. Heck, look at "American Idol." It took the show three years to raise the age limit from 24 to 28 -- as if the moment you turn 29, no one could possibly idolize you? And 30? Forget it.

This is crazy. And it's terrible for teen stars, who can reach the height of their earning power as they're sliding through the depths of their impulsive years.

It's no wonder so many of them end up with addictions, shaved heads and criminal records. If the entire world tells you you're the best thing ever, and if you're surrounded by people on your payroll who let you do whatever you want as long as you keep the paychecks coming, this is the most likely result.

What's unlikely to change things for Billy Ray Cyrus, though, is talking to magazines like GQ about all this business. Michael Lohan, who seems to send out weekly press releases about his daughter and her travails, hasn't managed to keep Lindsay Lohan from self-destructing. At various times, she even blamed her dad for her troubles.

There's a time and a place for parenting. The time is when your kids are kids. The place is at home -- not in the media. The media are not friends to celebrities, especially the young ones. The fawning press, the Barbara Walters "most fascinating" interviews, these are part of the problem. Same goes for the entertainment companies that create these publicity machines that shoot stars into orbit with little thought of keeping them in something resembling an atmosphere of sanity.

Here's hoping that whatever Billy Ray Cyrus fears most won't come to pass, and that Miley will emerge from this time ready to focus on her acting and singing, so that she can make the most of her talent and not just the most money. And now the rest of us can respectfully look away while this broken family does its best to heal.

Surprise Surprise*

百忙中應該給自己一個驚喜，例如節日上的慶祝。更加要獎勵自己的努力!

I appreciate the surprises created by others to me, which gives me a good start of the year.
Enjoy every corner and angle of life=)

To Ladies*

An encouraging and meaningful message to all ladies=):

1. No matter how good this man in front of you is, if he doesn’t love you, this is his biggest shortcoming which you can never change.

2. Do not cry when breaking up. Of course, it's not that you don't cry at all. In front of him, don't cry, but back in the ground, you could cry as much as you want.

3. The biggest shortcoming of a person is not selfishness, brutality, and willfulness, but stubbornness for loving a person who does not love you.

4. No matter how bad your conditions are, there will always be someone who loves you. No matter how good your conditions are, there are always people who do not love you.

5. The only way to seize a man should be, never let him be satisfied.

6. No matter how pretty you dress, no matter how expensive you wear, that's just a guise. A coat made with kindness is the true beauty.

7. If we blame love for hurting us, then may I ask, did you nod at the beginning to accept that love to come?

8. Grievances that can be spoken are not grievances. Those “lovers” who leave you are not considered your true love.

9. It is a kind of happiness to be able to hold a touch of sadness that cannot be taken away by time.

10. Human is always a lonely creature with ego. No matter how you sincerely speak your love, there will always be a moment that your heart cannot be understood.

11. Be neither modest nor arrogant, face everything with calmness and elegance.

12. A person, if he is not free, it is because he does not want to be free; a person, if he cannot walk away, it is because he does not want to walk away;

a person, if he has too many excuses for you, it is because he does not want to care.

13. Sometimes, things are subjective that cannot be explained. If you think it's worth it, then it's worth it; if you don't think it's worth it, even others say the opposite, you still feel it’s not worth it.

14. To understand the truth, men easily like a person, but will not easily fall in love with a person.

15. Woman, when in love, is like being isolated from the world.

16. On calm days, leave and cherish some space for yourself, some space for your partner, and some beauty for distance.

17. Sometimes don't worry too much. Men are a little bit clunky. Forgetting one thing doesn't mean he doesn't love you, don't scare yourself.

18. Women often like to confess their hearts, while men do the opposite.

19. Sometimes, learn to treat disappointment as a gain, because disappointment could be the byproduct of expectation.

20. Don't deliberately try to change whoever, because no one can change whoever, only if, he (whoever) is willing to change for you.

21. By time, you can understand love, you can prove love, you can also overturn love.

22. Freedom is precious, but tens of thousands of people are using freedom in exchange for love every day.

23. You can have vanity, because that is the nature of women, but don't let yourself become a tool for adding vanity to others.

24. Don't say that there is no good man in this world, don't remember and hate the person who abandoned you, after all, he had loved you. Forgiveness will make you more beautiful.

25. Don't be curious and don't care what his current girlfriend looks like. How is her figure? You're just making trouble for yourself like this.

26. Whatever you said must be done, even if it is stupid, it is better than words without credibility.

27. Don't make a decision when you’re angry and crying, you will regret it.

28. He said, “I am tired, let me calm down and take a break for a while, okay?” You say yes, because he came to inform you, not to get your consent.

29. You are pure then so be it, if you pretend to be pure, it is uglier than ugly, understand?

30. Not all efforts will succeed, but without effort, you will not succeed.

31. Girls must love themselves. No matter how much blow you encounter, no matter how bad the situation you face, don’t deprave yourself. The more you don't love yourself, the more nobody loves you.

32. Beauty, wisdom, money, and many other things are doomed by nature. Don’t try to change using your jealousy.

33. Be careful! Jealousy, hatred, and revenge are just tricks. It doesn't matter if you want to play these tricks, it's about not being discovered.

34. Set your mind, don't be sad when you lose things, you should be thinking like this, he does not belong to you.

35. Try to be an elegant woman, don't be pretentious, because pretentious women are not only hated by women, but also by men.

36. Independence, forever. No matter, emotionally or financially.

37. Um ... On what occasions do you not believe in a man? In bed, when he is happy, when he asks for you to do him a favour, and when he makes mistakes.

38. Don't try your best to show off to many people that you have many boyfriends or male friends. Because others will not envy you, they will just despise you.

39. Don't ask all day, do you love me? By the time when you ask, he doesn't love you anymore.

40. Under 20 years old, if you believe in idol drama, so be it. Over 20 years old, you still believe in idol drama, then it's over.

41. To know whether a man is good or bad, it’s not depending on his monogamy or not. Since ancient times, men have many dedications (I.e. Flower heart in Chinese), it’s depending on whether a man has self control or not.

42. Brave women are always more beautiful than coward women. If, your lover does not love you, I advise you to be brave and separate, better than cowardly entangled.

43. A woman who is good at compromise is precious. However, women who are only good at compromising are cheap.

44. Don’t be an overwhelming female; be a wise and strong woman.